Wow. This just in, my father is a fucking arsehole.
Now I’ve mentioned before his slight confusion over his sexuality. I’ve known this for years, my mother knew even before I was born & honestly, it’s never really been an issue. Until now. So, what I may not have mentioned is the fact he has a young man (22 years old) from the Philippines coming over to stay with him in November. My father’s wife knows & is fine with it – as I would hope so since he will be staying in her house. In-fact, while we’re on her, I may as well shock you all by saying again how she can email him but not me. Yes I know, shock horror.
So this guy is in the process of applying for a Visa to come here. Apparently all of his friends have been telling him not to come. My father could “murder him, traffic him, rape him, anything!“. My dad tells me this as though it’s blasphemy, to which I replied that those were the exact words he used when Bear & I were planning to meet for the first time.
Anyway, the point of this post? This evening, my father tells me the following:
[22:19:36] —–@btinternet.com says:
I got a really good deal on travel to London where we’ll stay with Ian and Nick and it’s only £14 train fare each way
[22:20:04] —–@btinternet.com says:
but I had to book right away and take the dates offered which are 7th to 15th November
[22:20:13] —–@btinternet.com says:
so I will miss your last week here
Well shit me a coconut, isn’t that a fathers love in action right there.
Obviously he isn’t bothered by the notion that I’ll be living in America & won’t be coming back any time soon. It’s fucking unbelievable with these people I swear, they are so out of touch with reality & with me. I’m speechless, I mean, what the hell am I supposed to even say to this?
I mean he’s going on about some Muslim guy in the fucking Philippines who’s angling for a ticket & a job here so he doesn’t get “stoned to death if his homosexuality is found out” – his words, not mine by the way so don’t hold me to that. But really, is he coming over for a holiday or is my father fucking adopting him?!!
My father is supposed to be thousands in debt, cannot afford the airfare to come to my wedding & wants me to apologize to his wife because it causes him “undue stress“. Well you know what, evidently he can pony up for this kid, fly him over & pay the bills while he’s here, but can’t even be there for me on my last week here, even when we had our own plans!
So fuck him. Fuck it. I’m done.
I think adults should have a pass a test before they are allowed to procreate. We don’t need children bringing children into the world because the children having sex, don’t know what to do with their new toys… and never have the time to learn.
I’m so sorry he is being so hateful. You deserve so much more. Thank goodness you have Bear in your life — Thank goodness your life is about to move on, move forward, and move past all of this very soon. Keep on counting down until your new birthday, the day you will step foot where you feel safe and loved and secure.
By: Cassandra on September 7, 2008
at 6:49 pm
My “new Birthday”… I like it, yes, I like that idea, it’s so apropos.
Thank goodness for Bear indeed, I don’t know where I’d be without him.
Thank you Cassandra.
By: AudaciousAria on September 7, 2008
at 7:03 pm
I’m sure you’ve addressed this before but is there not anyone else you could stay with? Like, non-family members. Lol. It feels dumb asking that because you’re always supposed to run back to family for support but clearly it’s doing exactly the opposite for you.
Anyways, i’m sorry he’s being such a…bastard. Is it alright for me to call your dad that? Hm. I can’t wait for the day when you get to return to America and to your real family.
By: Keeley on September 7, 2008
at 8:56 pm
How I wish there was… eurgh, I’d never have come here if that was the case. I wish, I wish. Things are getting tougher here by the hour. It’s even harder that it’s for such a long time too, it makes kipping on peoples floors & such impossible.. especially since I’m going to be working too. Gah, I hate it.
Lol & yes, in this instance, you have my permission to call my father that & anything else you choose!
I can’t wait for the day when you get to return to America and to your real family.
That was a really sweet thing to say, thank you Keeley.
By: AudaciousAria on September 7, 2008
at 9:03 pm
Christ, the more I think about this the more ridiculous it seems. You just couldn’t make this shit up!
By: AudaciousAria on September 8, 2008
at 8:21 am
I mean we don’t even know if this guy’s Visa will be granted & he’s gone ahead & booked this week in London!!
The guy says to him yesterday afternoon “I’m really worried about my Visa &… there’s something you don’t know” but when my father asked him what that was he told him he would tell him tomorrow.
Riiiiight then.
So to make light, but also with some seriousness my father is assuming he may actually be a muslim rebel (his father has a gunshot wound to the leg from govt. troops) & have terrorist connections – yeah, you did read that correctly..
I mean, like I said, you couldn’t make this shit up.
What the hell is my father thinking?!!
By: AudaciousAria on September 8, 2008
at 8:28 am
Wtf? That’s crazy.
What the hell is my father thinking?!!
He’s clearly not lmao
I don’t think there is much you can do nor do you probably want to do but try to stay as disconnected from it all as you can. Not to be dramatic or anything but seriously, stay safe and as far away from this as you can.
By: Keeley on September 8, 2008
at 7:40 pm
You’re right. I need to distance myself from so much right now & just focus on making as much money as possible as I count the days till I’m back home safe.
By: AudaciousAria on September 9, 2008
at 7:15 am